Need for Challenge

  • I initiate too much in interactions with other people
    • Trying to do too much
    • Speaking too much
      • People care about their thoughts firstly, my thoughts secondly
      • Nobody will remember everything I said even if it’s useful

Challenge

  • Be passive in 10 conversations
    • Acknowledge other peoples’ thoughts, feelings & perspectives
    • Allow other people to initiate
      • Resist temptation to be active and leading

Result

  • Conversation 1 – How bad umpires are in CFCL
    • Players were angry over bad decisions
    • Players felt disrespected by umpire
    • Players felt umpire was not doing his job, etc …
    • I kept eye contact, passively listened, acknowledged their feelings, etc …
  • Conversation 2 – Neighbor asked for help to connect phone and car bluetooth
    • Helped him identify his car radio is broken
    • Less initiation by me, responded to questions, acknowledged his feelings, etc …
  • Conversation 3 – Grand parents
  • Conversation 4 – Captains meeting